Resiliency in DIvorce – What it is and Why You Want It – Lisa R. Murray, Esq. and Valerie Sher, PhD –  As a Collaborative Practice Divorce Coach, she works with couples to help use difficult situations to develop resiliency and help build that in their children. Visit:

The Gifts of Relationship – Article by Valerie Sher, PhD on celebrating the gifts of relationship after loss and grief. Learn more about how to balance hurt, anger, and loss with the gifts we receive in relationship, no matter how hard. Visit:

The Art of Giving Good Repair – Article by Valerie Sher, PhD on how to repair after a disconnection. This practice is key to repairing ruptures and stop resentment while building trust and security you can get through difficult situations. Visit:


Recommended Reading


  • Mind over Mood: Change How You Feel By Changing The Way You Think by Greenberger and Padesky
  • Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder by Mason and Kreger
  • When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times by Pema Chodron

Anxiety Disorders

  • The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook by Edmund Bourne
  • Don’t Panic by Reid Wilson


  • The Mindful Way through Depression: Freeing Yourself from Chronic Unhappiness by Williams, Teasdale, Segal, and Kabat-Zinn
  • Full Catastrophe Living by Jon Kabat-Zinn
  • Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy for Depression by Segal, Williams & Teasdale


  • When Anger Hurts by McKay, Rogers & McKay
  • The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner, Ph.D.
  • Healing Rage by Ruth King, M.A.


  • Journey of the Heart: The Path of Conscious Love by John Welwood
  • Love and Awakening: Discovering The Sacred Path of Relationship by John Welwood
  • Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships by David Schnarch
  • The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships by John Gottman


  • Mindfulness for Beginners by Jon Kabat-Zinn
  • Arriving at Your Own Door: 108 Lessons in Mindfulness by Jon Kabat-Zinn
  • Peace Is Every Step: The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life by Thich Nhat Hanh
  • Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy for Depression by Segal, Williams & Teasdale

Addiction Referrals 

All Treatment – California Rehab Centers and Addiction Resources

Mind/Body Resources

5Rhythms Ecstatic Dance – or


What’s New


The HourGlass Podcast

Dr. Valerie Sher talks about the Naked Divorce Program on The HourGlass Podcast with David Glass.


The Naked Divorce Emotional Freedom Program - Get over your Divorce/Separation in 21 Days - A transformational journey of conscious uncoupling.

Also offering a 7 day intensive Haven Retreat for an accelerated transformational journey in Mexico or the San Francisco Bay area.

Discover the Intimacy of the Present Moment - A three part series on embodied self-inquiry.

Contact Info

Dr. Valerie Sher
61 Renato Ct., Suite 18
Redwood City, CA 94061
Phone: 650-332-4656

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